I loved President Monson's talk during the General Relief Society Broadcast about not judging others. He began with this anecdote:
A young couple, Lisa and John, moved into a new neighborhood. One morning while they were eating breakfast, Lisa looked out the window and watched her next-door neighbor hanging out her wash.
"That laundry’s not clean!" Lisa exclaimed. "Our neighbor doesn’t know how to get clothes clean!"
John looked on but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, Lisa would make the same comments.
A few weeks later Lisa was surprised to glance out her window and see a nice, clean wash hanging in her neighbor’s yard.
She said to her husband, "Look, John! She’s finally learned how to wash correctly! I wonder how she did it."
John replied, "Well, dear, I have the answer for you. You’ll be interested to know that I got up early this morning and washed our windows!"
Pres. Monson went on to say, "Mother Teresa, a Catholic nun who worked among the poor in India most of her life, spoke this profound truth: 'If you judge people, you have no time to love them.' The Savior has admonished, 'This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.' I ask: can we love one another, as the Savior has commanded, if we judge each other? And I answer-with Mother Teresa: no, we cannot."
While listening to his talk, I remembered a cute story involving my Grandmother Owens who passed away several years ago. While at a gathering some of the ladies present were speaking rather poorly about someone she had sympathies for. One lady made a comment that someday when "the individual" was on the other side he would be sorry for his life.
My grandma reached into her purse and pulled out a folded piece of paper, opened it and said, "I heard this little poem the other day and I liked it so I wrote it down." Then without batting an eye she read it aloud to the group.
I dreamed that death came the other night
And Heaven's gate swung wide.
With kindly grace an angel
Ushered me inside
And there to my astonishment
Stood folks I'd known on earth.
Some I'd judged and labeled
As unfit or of little worth.
Indignant words rose to my lips
But never were set free,
For on every face was stunned surprise
No one expected me!
Women in general tend to be really good at making judgments, when we should be taking a deeper look inside ourselves. I hope to be like my Grandmother Owens and steer clear of gossiping. I think I need to keep a copy of this poem to have my purse just as she did. I don't know that I would ever have the guts to pull it out, but it would serve as a remembrance to avoid judging others.